A fastest week ever; such were the pace of some instances in life. By the time you look back you are almost reaching 35; the trend now is “life starts at forty” so it is reassuring that one has 6 more years to grow to start a life ;)
World is very intelligent around; one can be assessed by the kind of colours and clothes worn, the wrist watch brands, how neatly one has polished shoes, how the hair is kept – straightened or highlighted, these are enough for a person to be packaged into a box. These boxes are – enterprising, high potential, hard-working, calculative, presentable, deep, superficial, articulate, aggressive, go-getter, energetic, young, mature, immature, negative, emotional, positive, over confident, low morale, team player, leader, supportive, creative, rationale, logical and the list goes on. Now all these reflect in your personal lives too.
If everything is right with a handsome packet; nothing is wrong in one’s personal life. There will only be compliments; support in times of hardships, support in times of injustice and all kinds of support will follow through.
If some things are right and some things not so right; a packet not handsome yet okay; then the discontentment continuous. Sometimes you will be supported, sometimes you will be discouraged, sometimes you are the best and sometimes there cannot be things as worse as this.
The last one, nothing is good so obviously there are no complaints because nothing is good anyways.
Is there an analogy to this? Yes right, the rich, middle and poor gap. This happens on a psychological level inside the mind and that mental framework goes down to action as you try to live out a balanced life.
To start with we are all essentially “Gullible” people, in order to protect personal identity, we run around good, medium and bad and give it a definition “attitude”. It’s the way a situation is handled, reacted, responded makes us fit into any of the above categories.
In the said situation, a likely promotion slips to a non-deserving team member and if the deserving candidate happens to break-down, that’s it; beware this will be framed, which ever box, but the conclusion will be “very low attitude” or “low spirited attitude”. On the contrary the deserving person congratulates the winner, its termed as “good attitude”, the person has all the potential to go places. The subject of fear does not enter the mind, as the thought is for a long term success viz a viz the short one. And then person with neutral or no reaction; there are signs sent out “be careful”, there is one out there, can go around scheming.
Now split this as just a situation or an incident; then the person in the prior reaction is framed into a “low spirited attitude box” this is only for that moment and this should not be concluded as his/her character. But unfortunately the human tendency or so called mind is so naive that such framing affects the mind and the victim believes that this is due to “low esteem” and starts to work against an emotion which perhaps is just a throw and wrap case.
Suppressing an emotion leads to lot of complications. There is no right or wrong to this; it is how the system is functioning. And this is known to all or at least heard of.
In school, many must have gone through this act called “by heart” or “ratta maaro”; some chapters are just useless, you can’t figure anything out of it. This will eventually pose as a definite question on the paper, so students just memorise it and vomit the same on the answer sheet. (Hope everyone remembers the effects from a scene of “3 Idiots”); some of these will be remembered even after 20 years. Classic examples are poems; songs; proverbs etc. These don’t change; they stay, the more you rehearse the better you get at it.
That is how the case of “framing or boxing” is; very hard to change a mind that has fixed and categorised a person or the character based upon a certain incident. There is no chance of change or given a benefit of doubt (oops...wrong word) unlike what happens in compositions, or prose, one can change. Reiterating a phenomenon of a form or structure will after a long time become that phenomenon.
Similarly in love one ends up prioritising, giving importance to the partner involved - a catalyst, who enables the so called ‘heart’ enters ‘mind’. Love is indeed an art, a very creative and intelligent art. It can make you think what you are not. It can make you become what you are not. It deceives criminals like you and me. Here it is a murder by killing the very feeling of originality. This murder is committed inside a human body to begin with. It actually works on mind than heart. It can make u dream and on the same scale bring you out of it. Love becomes so powerful that in the end it defeats you. All these play a very vital role in your professional and personal life.
Sharada technically can be compared to dry leaves..... that sway exactly the way the wind blew. All it required was repetitive iteration “three times” by the other person and she would start coining herself, seeing herself just the way others saw her; not realising so called “others” can also be wrong. She would introspect and started viewing her identity simply how it was perceived by others. A tendency to harshly interpret herself; by the way, this also has a box “I am hurt stigma” “cry baby” “self pity” “seeking attention” “emotional”......enjoy, choose the best.
People don’t have time to read gloomy and teary things; all they want is a fast paced thriller or comedy or life inspiring, motivational books. Because all whatever is written here does not interest, gives tiring signals, the person behind this note is also so sad, upset and experiencing harsh things; so by far, very difficult to catch hold of one’s attention for the longest time and write to them “truth” because they are inadvertently facing them.
World is very intelligent around; one can be assessed by the kind of colours and clothes worn, the wrist watch brands, how neatly one has polished shoes, how the hair is kept – straightened or highlighted, these are enough for a person to be packaged into a box. These boxes are – enterprising, high potential, hard-working, calculative, presentable, deep, superficial, articulate, aggressive, go-getter, energetic, young, mature, immature, negative, emotional, positive, over confident, low morale, team player, leader, supportive, creative, rationale, logical and the list goes on. Now all these reflect in your personal lives too.
If everything is right with a handsome packet; nothing is wrong in one’s personal life. There will only be compliments; support in times of hardships, support in times of injustice and all kinds of support will follow through.
If some things are right and some things not so right; a packet not handsome yet okay; then the discontentment continuous. Sometimes you will be supported, sometimes you will be discouraged, sometimes you are the best and sometimes there cannot be things as worse as this.
The last one, nothing is good so obviously there are no complaints because nothing is good anyways.
Is there an analogy to this? Yes right, the rich, middle and poor gap. This happens on a psychological level inside the mind and that mental framework goes down to action as you try to live out a balanced life.
To start with we are all essentially “Gullible” people, in order to protect personal identity, we run around good, medium and bad and give it a definition “attitude”. It’s the way a situation is handled, reacted, responded makes us fit into any of the above categories.
In the said situation, a likely promotion slips to a non-deserving team member and if the deserving candidate happens to break-down, that’s it; beware this will be framed, which ever box, but the conclusion will be “very low attitude” or “low spirited attitude”. On the contrary the deserving person congratulates the winner, its termed as “good attitude”, the person has all the potential to go places. The subject of fear does not enter the mind, as the thought is for a long term success viz a viz the short one. And then person with neutral or no reaction; there are signs sent out “be careful”, there is one out there, can go around scheming.
Now split this as just a situation or an incident; then the person in the prior reaction is framed into a “low spirited attitude box” this is only for that moment and this should not be concluded as his/her character. But unfortunately the human tendency or so called mind is so naive that such framing affects the mind and the victim believes that this is due to “low esteem” and starts to work against an emotion which perhaps is just a throw and wrap case.
Suppressing an emotion leads to lot of complications. There is no right or wrong to this; it is how the system is functioning. And this is known to all or at least heard of.
In school, many must have gone through this act called “by heart” or “ratta maaro”; some chapters are just useless, you can’t figure anything out of it. This will eventually pose as a definite question on the paper, so students just memorise it and vomit the same on the answer sheet. (Hope everyone remembers the effects from a scene of “3 Idiots”); some of these will be remembered even after 20 years. Classic examples are poems; songs; proverbs etc. These don’t change; they stay, the more you rehearse the better you get at it.
That is how the case of “framing or boxing” is; very hard to change a mind that has fixed and categorised a person or the character based upon a certain incident. There is no chance of change or given a benefit of doubt (oops...wrong word) unlike what happens in compositions, or prose, one can change. Reiterating a phenomenon of a form or structure will after a long time become that phenomenon.
Similarly in love one ends up prioritising, giving importance to the partner involved - a catalyst, who enables the so called ‘heart’ enters ‘mind’. Love is indeed an art, a very creative and intelligent art. It can make you think what you are not. It can make you become what you are not. It deceives criminals like you and me. Here it is a murder by killing the very feeling of originality. This murder is committed inside a human body to begin with. It actually works on mind than heart. It can make u dream and on the same scale bring you out of it. Love becomes so powerful that in the end it defeats you. All these play a very vital role in your professional and personal life.
Sharada technically can be compared to dry leaves..... that sway exactly the way the wind blew. All it required was repetitive iteration “three times” by the other person and she would start coining herself, seeing herself just the way others saw her; not realising so called “others” can also be wrong. She would introspect and started viewing her identity simply how it was perceived by others. A tendency to harshly interpret herself; by the way, this also has a box “I am hurt stigma” “cry baby” “self pity” “seeking attention” “emotional”......enjoy, choose the best.
People don’t have time to read gloomy and teary things; all they want is a fast paced thriller or comedy or life inspiring, motivational books. Because all whatever is written here does not interest, gives tiring signals, the person behind this note is also so sad, upset and experiencing harsh things; so by far, very difficult to catch hold of one’s attention for the longest time and write to them “truth” because they are inadvertently facing them.
Of all i have read until now... i loved this one... reason... its philosophical, fast paced and thought provoking...
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